You see am the kind of girl who likes to text. Jeez I can text all day and never get tired. But I also like phone calls too. So let me be clear about something, nobody and I mean absolutely nobody is soooooo busy that they can only manage to text, email or instant message you. Somewhere along the line, people find time to call even if it’s just for a minute.
When a man relies primarily on text messaging or instant messaging as a mean of communicating with you, it’s not because he’s a new age man, and it’s not because he is trying to manage his time effectively.
He is simply just trying to use ‘new’ forms of communication to control how both of you correspond so he can control the relationship. He wants to keep at a distance and it’s likely because he is emotionally unavailable, an assclown, or just both.
Now don’t get me wrong a man who is trying to get to know you
would might start off with texting you to
break the ice but eventually in that long run of trying to woo you or chase
you, he would call when the ice is broken and you two are comfortable with
yourselves. But if after 2months of texting he still hasn’t called? Omo babe
you know nah.
When a man is too lazy to communicate with you properly, why waste the air you breathe on him? Trust me, if lazy communication exist in your relationship, there are other problems there waiting for you to open the Pandora box.
Have you ever spent loads of time analysing a text message or an email? I have oh!
Have you ever reread a text trying to gauge the meaning or read waaay more into it? Oh yes you got that right. I have!
Wondering if he has a wife or girlfriend stashed away? I have!
Wondering why you haven’t heard from him but yet he’s been active on other social networks? I have! *stalker much* lol
Texting and instant messaging, even emails too are all open to interpretation and it’s very easy to misconstrue tone. If a dude relies on these methods of communication with you, you will build sandcastles in the sky because really, when you spend your time reading into things, you can make it any relationship you want it to be.
It’s one thing if his using these forms of communication as a secondary way of communicating with you in conjunction with picking up the phone, and seeing you face to face. But you should certainly not accept these means as a primary method of communication.
Men who don’t make an effort and who aren't interested in forging a relationship with you will opt for these lazy forms of communication.
You may start out this way at first like I said, but he should want to progress the conversation and let you into his life. You don’t need to work out the why’s, where’s and how’s and you certainly should not go down the route of trying to force him to communicate with you via other means.
Why should you have to force him to do something that comes naturally to people who actually want to have a relationship and want to put both feet in?
Nobody is so busy that they can only bring themselves to call you when they need an ego massage or a shag.
Tell me what you think. Am I right? Or just over-analysing?
As usual stay beautiful