Blogger & OAP Elsie Godwin, Releases New Photos to Celebrate another year in her life

Blogger & OAP, Elsie Godwin, Releases New Photos To Celebrate Her Birthday

Elsie Godwin, a final year student of Lagos State University, is a Nigerian Entrepreneur who has carved a niche as a prolific Lifestyle and Relationship online and on-air personality.

In 2014 she identified and saw the need to be heard, her strong opinion on relationship and lifestyle in general, led her to becoming a blogger hence the www.elsieisy.com platform. That soon got her the attention of many from her strong and insightful posts on relationship and self-esteem amongst young people.

Today she reaches over 30k people daily online, her fame online has led to her founding the “hangout with Elsieisy platform”; a platform that gives room for her online family to meet her physically to share and discus their life experiences. This has created a connect amongst so many of her readers, built new opportunities for network and businesses within Elsians as she so fondly calls them.

She is currently the host of an online radio show on Happenings Radio called “Crux of the Matter” this is just to add to the responds and answers to the questions of many online.

She is also currently shooting a show on AQC AFRICA as the host of “Making the Stories”; a campus TV show design to introduce admission and requirements, guide students/ applicants through school activities and lifestyle around Africa.

Elsie is a God fearing woman, a passionate and visionary personality, she supports and believes in the agenda for a new and better Nigeria. She believes in freedom of expression and the need for less hypocrisy and more bluntness in the society.

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Happy birthday Elsie

Styled by FloDee Clothing (Instagram – Flodeeco)

Hair by Xclusive Salon Wahala ( Instagram – Xclusivesalonwahala)

Make up by Rainbow Artistry (Instagram – Rainbows_artistry)

The Sisterhood Award

i got tagged in this award (pic above) by the ever wonderful Honeydame. I was suppose to respond to this like ages ago but procastination is a rubbish thing. Anyhow i've decided to get around to it before the award is taken away *smile*. Here we go. 

1. What is your secret weapon to lure the opposite sex, boy/girlfriend, husband/wife, potential? (hahahahaha, for the heck of it)

Lmao...this kind of question sef.. i have no weapon..Infact to be honest i don't even need it...they just happen to come along....cause i'm hot like that *wink wink*

2. What was/is a major deciding factor in your choice of career?

Hmmmmm i never planned to be in HR really..i always wanted to do International relations or Business law...but then i started working and found myself in HR i liked it and decided to go back to school to study it and have a degree and the rest is history 

3. What was/is a major deciding factor in your decision to be with or not to be with your current significant other?

*clears throat* significant other? did she say 'significant other'? *looks around* honey where....*looks around again* whereeee (i think you get the point already but if u don't just search your inner soul and it would come to you) 

4. What does the colour "black" represent to you?

Just one thing...i didn't have the energy to put anything colorful together. 

5. Toinlicious vs HoneyDame, who is saner (Aha, now you gotta read both blogs!!!)

Buhahahahahaa...Please i am still contemplating this fact... both of you are just cray cray..To my other readers who don't know who these two cray cray girls are please check their blogs Here and Here. 

6. Novels or Movies?

Actually it depends on my mood and the movie or the book

7. Your favorite season of the year is?

Definitely Winter..Anyone who knows me knows i get sunburns easily so i hate to go under the sun and i can't stand heat  

8. The 8th Wonder of the world should be ___________

ME....Yes pun intended 

9. How many of your current friends were made in elementary/primary school?

Honeyboo just one....as for the rest i don't even remember their names or what they look like

10. Do you believe in the power of thoughts?

Oh Yes Yes Yes i doooo. And because of that i have truly become conscious of my thoughts 

Woohooo finally the questions have come to an end. Okay so the rule is i am suppose to thank the blogger who tagged me, put up the blog award, ask 10 questions and then tag 5 people. The first two i have already done. But you see rules are meant to be broken right? So yes i am breaking the rules. 

I hereby tag these people *cocky smile*

Toinlicious 

1+ the one 

Cherry (Mrs somebody) 

Missy T 

T.Notes

My Questions

1. Why did you start blogging?

2. What is that one thing that ticks you off?

3. If you had a chance to go anywhere in the world, where would you go?

4. What makes you tick, motivates you?

5. If you had super powers what would it be?

6. Would you consider yourself to be a social person?

7. What's your worse fear?

8. If you had a million dollars what would you do?

9. What color of socks are you wearing right now?

10. What's your least favorite word (s)? 

11. What has been your best present? 

BTW T.Notes...Thanks for checking out my blog..yes i saw you. 

Okay bye..I shall be back with a new blog update once i can finish writing it *rolls my eyes* 

As always 

Stay Beautiful 

xoxo

Chantel 

25 Thoughts on Love, Relationships, Friendships and becoming a better me.

I have been away but I am kind of back. Let’s just pretend I have been here all the while okay. Anyway in my away time, I did some reflecting and I put together 25 thoughts on love, relationship, friendship and becoming a better me. 

1. Live with self-esteem at the heart of your interactions because if you don’t love you, you would end up acting without love, care, trust, and respect towards other people and in situations that detract from you.

2. Pray when it’s the hardest and when you think God isn't listening because he is.

3. Don’t depend too much on anyone in this world because even your shadow leaves you when you’re in darkness

4. Friendship isn't about the quantity but the quality 

5. Any relationship where one person thinks that it can only be on their terms is a relationship to run in the opposite direction from. 

6. Dating is a discovery phase – you need to go into dating with a reasonable sense of trust and by paying attention to actions and words, you can roll back or increase your trust accordingly. Don’t go gaga and run around loving and trusting blindly because you would end up ignoring evidence that indicates that you need to slow down or abort mission. 

7. People tell you and show you who they are and you need to be listening and watching, not deciding that you know better. 

8. Avoid playing games in relationships because not only will you become uncertain as to what is genuine and what has been manipulated by the games, but you would also lose all credibility of the person if they become aware of it, plus if they’re dodgy they would take advantage of it.

9. Staying and complaining doesn't remove your accountability or do anything to improve the situation. 

10. Resisting the reality of something takes a lot more energy than accepting it – don’t give room for denial.

11. Desperation in any form mixed with dating and relationships makes a dangerous cocktail that can be smelt by an assclown shark from a million miles away. 

12. People who are genuinely interested in you not only show their interest, but they don’t resist you and don’t make their intentions or interactions ambiguous, plus you know they are interested without second guessing. 

13. Mistakes are growing pains but ultimately growing gains.

14. People unfold and keep unfolding.

15. We've got to stop exaggerating busy. Aside from the fact that busy doesn't equate to purposeful, we all choose what we want to be busy at. Busy people can love, have relationships and include others in their lives. 

16. Attempting to right the wrongs of a past that you weren't wholly or solely responsible for, leaves your present and future unattended to.

17. Don’t write online what you won’t be prepared to say to someone’s face.

18. Holding a grudge is like stabbing yourself over and over again – talk about it and let it go for your own sanity.

19. Don’t give away your choices. The words ‘yes’, ‘no’, ‘maybe’, as well as ‘let me get back to you’, exist for a reason – use them. 

20. Don’t wait for the perfect moment, take a moment and make it perfect.

21. Be careful of the forever hungry mind-set where you never appreciate what you have because your mind is always on the next proverbial meal. How would you know and appreciate what is more, when you never appreciated what you had?

22. Ups and downs are relative and personal hence why comparison and envy aren't the most productive or illuminating uses of your energy and time. 

23. You don’t have to be liked by everyone. No need to collect likes. Vibe with people who chime with your values and appreciate those who you don’t have to jump through hoops for them to appreciate who you are. 

24. Appreciate your life and how far you have come and look ahead to where you are going. Stop comparing your chapter X to another person’s chapter Y.

25. We don’t live in an ideal, fairy tale world so while it’s great that you know what you would think, feel and do under various circumstances, don’t project this on to other people and assume they are the same unless you have evidence that demonstrates this.

As usual stay beautiful 

Xoxo Chantel 

Size. What does it Matter?!

Like seriously, is it a competition or is it just from insecurity?

Every time a guy tells me how big his ding dong is and how great of a sex partner he is, it just makes me laugh. Like honestly what’s the point really? If I haven’t asked you, why in the world are you telling me? Infact why are you trying to convince me of how great you are in bed? Are you trying to convince me or is it yourself you are trying to convince? Because all that talk just makes you look pathetic and makes me laugh.

Oh did I also say it makes you look very INSECURE? Yeah I think I already said that, but to send it home again, IT MAKES YOU LOOK INSECURE. Get my drift now? Good.

Honestly, I do not mean to dick shame, but it just always amuses me when I hear a man brag about his penis size, feeling all boastful and proud. Honey, you did nothing to deserve that dick...you were just born with it. It’s a penis size not a damn Pulitzer, so stop talking so much about it.  Spare us the proud parent act and just accomplish something with it.

You need to remember that a woman’s vagina is talented enough to expand to fit the size of any dick. So when a guy brags about his penis size, I’m just like, DARLING, SILENCE PLEASE, THE BURDEN OF THE BIG DICK IS NOT YOURS TO CARRY.

Sometimes a too big dick is maybe the only time size might take sex right off the table, and perhaps a small dick the size of my pinkie as well. The thing is, if it’s larger than a bread box, and as small as a pea, then we’re going to have a problem. Trust me no woman is confused when it comes to the size in your pants. At that point, she definitely knows what she wants (at least I do).

Basically, I think your size shouldn't really matter honestly. What you should be more worried about is finding your groove and how you can rock it, because big dick does not equal to good sex. My wish for men is that they wouldn’t stress over their size because unlike boobs, your penis size is not going to change. However, the only thing which can is what you do with it and that applies to all sizes and shapes.

So I spoke to some men regards this topic and they all think we women are the reason why they need to convince us of the size. Anyway, I feel that what all men (women) should focus on, is how they make their partner feel, and how they feel with their partner. Ladies please please give the small sized fellows a chance before writing them off completely. But if it feels like a pen in-between your legs, then please send that man out your door…Infact drive him home if you have to. And to the guys in the middle, please stop worrying about how you measure up or not. At the end, it all balls down to chemistry and movement, and not length and girth.

PS: To the one who says for someone who isn't having sex I sure do talk a lot about sex…errmmm its called abstinence not virginity. And I don’t see anything wrong about talking about it. It’s not a forbidden word.

As always stay beautiful

Xoxo Chantel 

Getting Dumped: From My Perspective

PS: It’s my view so pardon me for speaking about it only from my own perspective. So if you get confused just go back and read the title. 

Breaking up for many is a hard task. It’s hard for both parties really. The initiator and the reactor. Personally, I have been on both sides of the slate, and I would have to say it’s painful on both ends. But I must say that it totally sucks when you are the reactor because half the time, you don’t even have a clue it’s coming.

So let me explain both terms to you for better understanding. The INITIATOR and REACTOR. The two opposite poles in the breaking up process. The initiator is most commonly known as the dumper/ jerk/ asswipe/ bitch/ idiot/ gold-digger…you name it. While the reactor on the other end is the dumpee, more commonly known as the Great girl/guy that you let go off.

The reason why you decide to break up are usually varied, but essentially, could contain any or more of the following:

1. One of you cheated and got caught. (mind you cheating is cheating regardless of the type).
2. Both of you grew apart; had different goals and life expectations.
3. One of you got cold feet; wasn't ready to take it to the next level, or stay in this one.
4. One person has commitment phobia.

Now if you are the reactor/dumpee, it’s pretty hard to believe that home boy is calling it quits. It’s almost always surreal, like you are living outside of your body watching his mouth as he lets the words slip out, telling you why both of you can’t be together. Inside you are screaming, crying, railing and wrapping your fingers around his neck, trying to get him to shut up. But outside you are frozen in place, heart beating fast, hoping that in a few minutes he will break into a laugh and tell you it’s all a joke. None of these happen and eventually, and you face reality.

At this point is usually where your reaction sets in. For me, it’s usually a delayed response. I want to be dramatic and throw a fit but being the diva that I am, I simply can’t. I tend to just smile, say okay and bye. Why exit so quickly? Oh well, because if I stay one minute too late, I know like I just know I would be bawling all over his shoulder, and begging him to change his mind. And a big girl would not do that (big girls don’t cry). So I exit as gracefully as I can and take my tears to the safety of my bedroom and pillow, and I call up that dear friend who would listen to me rant. (You’re reading this and you know yourself) *wink wink*

However, if you are the initiator, it’s relatively easier but just a tad. Since you know the relationship is about to end, you would have probably spent a few days/weeks/months thinking about how you’re going to do it and what you are going to say. You've already to some extent, started the grieving process so you are now more emotionally prepared.

For pit’s sake don’t offer me the ‘let’s be friends’ line. Please don’t I DO NOT want to be your friend. If I wanted to be your friend, I wouldn't have given you my heart in the first place. Being your friend isn't a condolence prize…sorry hun you lost the relationship jackpot but let’s be friends. Grrrr!

You have just turned my world upside down in matter of minutes…nothing you say or do right then is going to make me feel any better short of you dropping dead. Also don’t try and get an emotional response from me (some guys would say ‘say something’…ermmm like what please?). If I’m not giving you any, chances are I’m holding on to my sheer force of will. So casting blame on me or trying to goad me is only going to make me snap…and oh boy you most certainly don’t want that.

My suggestion: say what you need to say and take a step quickly because darling, that way they won’t have to scrape your remains off the floor. (And the violent taketh by force) LMAO. 

As usual stay beautiful 

xoxo Chantel.

20 Random Facts About Moi

I got tagged by the ever so beautiful Toin. So I am obliged to do a 20 random fact tag about my beautiful self. Yes I know you have being dying to know about me cause am awesome like that. If you say I lie go call police. Read and enjoy. 

1. I cannot I repeat cannot do without internet. Like when I don’t have internet I feel like my whole world would collapse.
2. Sometimes I am wayyyyy tooooo hard on myself. But yet I also think I don’t push myself hard enough. 
3.  At first glance I come across as bitchy but once you get to know me am a total clown and sweetheart.
   
   
4. I never read M and B as a teenager or ever in my life.
5. I am totally addicted to eating cucumber and yogurt. Let me also be clear on the fact that I combine both of them together to eat. oh yes am weird like that.
6. I never go a night without drinking green tea.
7. I am 100% a shoes addict.
8. I am totally addicted to texting so my fingers are always going at my phone. I only call when it is necessary.
9. I drink my water or coke with loads and loads of ice-cubes so I can chew on the ice afterwards. It takes the grace of God for me not to lose my manners and start chewing the ice in my drink when am out. 
10. I loveee watching thrillers and horror movies.
11. Snakes are my worst fear.
12. I am a real foodie in the sense that I enjoy cooking and eating. But if you beg me I will give you..lol.
13. I have a thing for the colors white and yellow.
14. Everyone calls me by my middle name Chantel but my first name is Martha.
15. I have a love/hate relationship with sleep.
16. I can’t pronounce the word ENTHUSIASTIC loud I sound totally hilarious when I try.
17. I can’t read a full paragraph of Pidgin English. I totally get lost.
18. As much as I love watching thriller and horrors, those are also my favourite kinda reads when it comes to books.
19.  I’m the only one in my entire family without a native name. Have no idea why. 
20. I don’t have any matching bra and knickers.

I would go on but the instruction said 20 so there you go. You now know a little something something about the ever awesome person behind this blog. Now go and write your own 20 random facts about yourself and with that am going to tag Missytees, HD, Cherrywine, Elsieisy, Princelaj.

As usual stay beautiful and read my blog *wink wink*

Xoxo Chantel